I have come to a sacred part in my life where if someone wants my negative
attention. I simply do not engage in conversation with them.
They may be asking me if I am who I say I am or just a general put down.
Remember these people are lonely and lacking self-esteem
if they had any sort of self love for themselves they wouldn't have to
resort to cheap shots at me. I simply do not go there with these people
anymore. They suck the life energy out of you.
In Desiderata there is a line that says "Avoid loud and aggressive people
for they are vexations to your spirit" Vexations, life and energy
zappers. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are.
People who are comfortable with themselves.
I do... and I find so much more joy out of life. I don't attract them into
my life anymore. And if I did I would use Maya Angelou's powerful statement
"No not me go find someone else to bring down"
And it stops these people in their tracks.
Now I know...what about Mom in-laws well it all depends on what kind of
life
energy suckin' they're doing. Now let me clarify this...Moms
generally want what's best for their kids right? So sometimes it is a little
hard for them to cut the apron strings even well after the diaper stage.
So
be gentle on them and if it gets tough just tell them "No not me not today
or anyday Mom". This usually works you can apply it to bosses, co-workers, spouses you name
it you can apply it.
It is much better than getting upset and it allows you to stay in the moment
so you can focus on the "real" things in life. Just remember don't respond
or else you are drawn in to negative vibes. 
"Similarly, every internal and external event we encounter makes an energetic statement and imprint- from places, events and situations to beliefs, thoughts, fears and time itself. This seems pretty intense- and it is- but these energetic statements are needed to commune with the true part of ourselves that is walking a spiritual path in a material world. This is the way the soul interacts with the journey. There is usually no problem with all of these imprints and connections being made- because those that don't serve us or that don't actualize into our lives on a tangible platform usually dissolve over time. Sometimes, however, we harbor energetic imprints and connections that don't serve us, or are even bad for us! Let's say we are walking down the street and pass someone who just gives us a bad feeling. We have no reason to judge them because we don't know them- and should not judge. There is simply an energetic incompatibility that makes neither person 'bad'. Because this event may some with an emotional charge due to the feelings that swell up from the energetic level, we can easily attach and hook-in on a subconscious level for many reasons. From then on, there is a subtle, yet real, connection between us and a person who passed our path but is not supposed to be on it- and the effects of that connection go both ways. We should strive to maintain energy hooks only with the people and events that are real and productive for us here and now. This means total energetic accountability for our addictions to the past, our fears of the present and our reliance on negative attention. So, the big question is... How do we cut those connections that no longer serve us or have never served us? How to we let go of what is not in accord with our current journey and make room for the new? http://www.articlesbase.com/mysticism-articles/the-spiral-dance-of-clearing-cleansing-balancing-973485.html 
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